Today I miscarried my third baby at 9 wks, I'm a complete mess even though you would think I'm use to it by now after lossing 3 babies in less than a year.
The more this keeps happening the more I can't help but feel that it's my fault and that I will never be a Mum to living babies.
I feel like giving up on my dreams to be a Mum its just so heartbreaking everytime I have to go through this.
firstly I am ever so very sorry for your angels... I can not imagine what pain you are going through right now - give yourself time to greive, get angry, cry, hate the world..... I pray that you will have your little one in your arms...... it takes a special person to be a mummy of angels xxxxx You are not a failure babe, you are an amazing woman xxxxx
Kam, I am so, so sorry that you have lost another babe and I don't think it would ever get any easier. You're not a failure, and please don't give up on one day holding your forever babe in your arms. Much love to you and take care xo.
Dear Kam, I can't imagine what you're feeling...well I can, and it must be hell. Why does it feel like a failure, I wonder? I've felt the same, even though I know it is ridiculous, and that it makes us no less women/wifes/daughters. I tell myself there's always adoption, when I get down, plenty of children that need love in the world, if I don't succeed.
The only thing to say is that you WILL get over it, in time. When this happened to me I remember thinking, I recognize this feeling, I've tried this before - and then remembering that it was the same feeling I had when I lost my father, and it gave me a sort of calm, because I knew I would get through it like I did with that loss, eventually.
It doesn't help much when you're in the black hole, but it will, knowing you, and many other, have survived it before.
Oh Kam,
I know what your going through and I'm so sorry for your loss. I spent months in a deep depression blaming myself after my 3rd loss. After my 5th i realized it never gets any easier and i hope i never get comfortable with it.
Try to hold your head up and lean on whoever you have to assist you. There is nothing you could have done differently it's just not the right time for you yet. If you still have your organs then there is still hope.
Give yourself as much time as you need, Days, weeks, months. Allow your mind and your body time to recover before you try again.
I'm very sorry for your losses,I don't think it is something you would get used to happening,each baby is an individual and each loss of a precious soul has to be devastating.Hoping you find the strengh to try again one day,and that it works out wonderfully for you.Try to be kind to yourself through this hard time.
to dear kam
you are not a failure hun ! sometimes these things just happen ... and i know it sucks. i just found out i have an IC and have had a preemie at 33 weeks and just had a baby girl ellie on friday night who passed away after 2 hours and i was 28 weeks.
i know it wont help you but its never your fault ! You wanted all 3 of your angels which means you did everything that you felt was right. And thats all anyone can do or ask for.
please take care of yourself xx
kam,
im so sorry to hear of your losses but dont give up hope my sister had 10 m/c before she finally had my nephew. she had a problem where her body was attacking the baby. she had treatent and although it was a hard pregnancy etc she now has my 2 year old nephew.
take care of yourself. xxxx
I still haven't figure out PM but if it's not to personal to ask rachel6188 what exactly is wrong with your sister and how was she treated. They found something in my blood that will attack future babies, so maybe its the same thing.
Kam i'm so sorry that you are going through yet another loss X
Be kind to yourself you are not a failure, and you will get your wish one day, esp if this blood gets sorted out X
Anyway just wanted to drop you a line and let you know that there are so many wonderfull supportive women and gent's here that can help you get through this.
Hope to be sharing your futute TTC success in the forums sometime X
BindW I just wanted to give you a cyber Hug
To go through what you have just experienced, and are on here supporting others, youre an Angel yourself X Thank You for posting such a lovely reply X
im sorry to hear about all your losses, im actually here to tell you about a genetic problem in my family that my aunty has and we all had to get tested
my aunty had a still born at 34 weeks and has many misscarriages alot, they usually wont test your blood for these problems unles its asked for or if you already know about it.
the gentic prob is called THROMBOPHILIA, and FACTOR 5 LAIDEN.
please if you ahvent been tested please ask ur drs as this can play a big part in losing babies and if you have it they can help you have a succesful pregnancy as my aunt now has a healthy 7yr old due to getting testing for these things and them helping her our with medication once she gets pregnant
Today I miscarried my third baby at 9 wks, I'm a complete mess even though you would think I'm use to it by now after lossing 3 babies in less than a year.
The more this keeps happening the more I can't help but feel that it's my fault and that I will never be a Mum to living babies.
I feel like giving up on my dreams to be a Mum its just so heartbreaking everytime I have to go through this.
I feel like such a failure.
Kam
I am sorry sorry to hear of your third loss I am too on my third loss and a complete mess but a bit better after joining this chat room as there is so much support and advice here.
I feel like giving up too but we cant as well as sad stories you hear happy ones too and as my Mum said when I do have my baby it will be a super hero!!!!
It is the worst feeling in the world going through what we are and it is not your fault I have a very hard time looking for a reason as well trying to blame myself but you have to try and remain strong.
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that you will have your little one in your arms...... it takes a special person to be a mummy of angels xxxxx You are not a failure babe, you are an amazing woman xxxxx
and I don't think it would ever get any easier. You're not a failure, and please don't give up on one day holding your forever babe in your arms. Much love to you and take care xo.
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