There is a risk of infection but as mentioned this can be simply monitored. If there is not a medical need for your baby to be born today then you take your time if that's what you feel you need.
PB, when I had Banjo I had an amnio (which didn't work while I was still carrying him but because I birthed him in the sac the Ob took it afterwards) She also offered to send him away for a autopsy and took some tissue from the placenta. I declined the autopsy. We did get results from the amnio... every thing was normal.
I would wait a while and see if you can birth bub yourself. The reason I say this is because you sound like you need to. I know of many women who have waited and avoided sugery, none of them contracted an infection. Don't put anything into your vagina and keep an eye on your health (eg temp or signs of illness).
When we learned Banjo had died I told them there was no way I was having a D&C and I am so glad I got to hold my little boy.
There are some herbs that may help your body start contracting... I can't think of them (Inanna??).
I am so sorry this has happened again and that you are having to make these decisions again.
Hi darling - I am so sorry for your loss. You may have seen my posts recently about losing my twins just last week. My OB said that anything after 12 weeks then they get you to deliver and not do a d&c. Reason he stated was they were too formed and it could cause you problems. I had the misoprostal induction which is some pills that get inserted in your vagina towards your cervix that make you dialate - you go through labour and its pretty intense. But given bubs is so small you don't have to dialate all the way and there is no pain from the delivery aspect of things.
There are a couple of things you might want to consider. If you leave this to 20 weeks then you'll get a birth certificate for your bubs. This goes on your delivery and not when the bubs passed. This could be very validating for you. The other thing is financial - you will get the baby bonus and access to other funds to help you financially if you wait until 20 weeks. I know that money is probably not even entering your thinking but if you look at it that you can use it to memorilise and commerate your bubs then it could make a difference and help you along with the grief process.
The best thing for me a week on is the memory of holding my babies. I am thankful every day that I got to spend time with them.
They said they wouldn't do a D&C due to bus size and position, so they have booked me in on Monday for an induction...
I really hope things start on their own....
I am feeling crampy, and I didn't get this with Seven, not this bad anyway.... I am having more blood loss too, which I didn't get at all last time....
If anyone knows what I can do to help avoid induction, and go naturally, I would love to hear please....
There are herbs & you can PM me for them. It sounds to me like things are beginning on their own. It's important to monitor your blood loss. Blood loss can be an issue with these labours. I myself hemhorraged after my sons silent birth. I retained the placenta & required surgery.
I am not sayign this to concern you - rather to prepare you for some things that can occur.
My heart is aching for you. I wish I could ask Mother Nature to turn back the clock but...well you know what the answer would be... xxx
Black Cohosh has an ability to ripen the cervix. It also helps in relaxing and opening the cervix.
Blue Cohosh is also a uterine stimulant that helps in toning the uterus. It stimulates the contraction of uterus and is very effective when used in combination with Black Cohosh and Pennyroyal.
Pennyroyal is one of the best effective herbs and natural ways for inducing an angel baby. Don't take the essential oil extracted from it internally, as it is poisonous.
Hi you don't know me but I have been reading your sad story and Just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss,
Do what you have to do to make peace with your loss, I had a D&C last year mc at 13wks and for me I needed to know I had all the tissue from the pg removed as I have had a history of retained placenta, But saying that I would have prefered to deliver naturally if my bub was older and I could have had the chance to see and hold and say goodbye, So if you can wait it out then do so Nature does have a funny way of sorting us out for the best in the end !
My prayers are with you and your family right now and I do think you should be given more testing as this has happened twice now,
Thank you so much ladies...
They did warn me about extra blood loss, and said I may still need a d and c afterwards...but they, and me, are hoping after 6 natural births, my body does the right thing.....
blood loss has slowed.... and cramps are on/off....
Will look up pennyroyal, thankyou, PM'ing you Innana.. xoxoxo
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