Hi AngeA
I had a miscarriage last year and it was a bit like Sousie's.
I also could not stand the thought of a dead baby inside of me so I opted for a D&C to be done. My 12 week antinatal turned into a gyn appoitment we organised the D&C on the way home we got some groceries, we weren't home for 5 min and my waters broke in the kitchen, I went straight to the loo to find blood. I started heameraging in the bath room,my DH rang my mum to take me to the hospital. In the emergancy room is where I lost my angel. It was an incompleat miscarriage so I had to have a D&C anyway.

During the D&C the DR was too aggressive and damaged my uterus and gave me ashermans syndrome. Lucky for me it is only mild but I have talked (on the net)to women who have it worse than me. There is a specialist in Sydney who can treat you for it, he is in the top 5 in the world. (my gyn wanted to give me a hysterectomy)

So even though I have ashermans syndrome I would still recomend a D&C but I would let the Dr doing the D&C know that your uterus is very fragile to go easy. Do a google search on ashermans syndrome and evaluate the risks yourself. Only your friend can make the decision so it may as well be an educated one.

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news someone had to let you know

Take care
Chris