thank-you for such a lovely and hopeful reply. I had a second scan (which I had requested) today and now have a picture of my little 'blob' which is comforting and helping me focus as this last week and a half has felt so unreal. I have been told that it could be weeks before I miscarry but I have time to mentally prepare myself and to say goodbye to this little one. The fertility clinic seem really posative about continuing treatment which I didn't think was possible which is a ray of hope. I have found out this last week just what amazing and supportive friends I have, and although this is (as it is for any woman) a dark time, I know that time passes and life goes on. thanks again x