It's so unfair!

[ferret]

Basically, this is all I keep thinking "it is so unfair". I just lost my baby 2 weeks ago (6w preg) and I am just finding it so hard.
What has stirred the pot for me though, a girl at work has just announced her pregnancy and is asking me all the time for pregnancy advise (I guess because I have a little boy). I can't handle it; I don't get why she gets her baby - she smokes and parties and I just keep thinking it is so unfair.
This is my first post so I'm sorry it's so whiney..I guess I just need to vent to people who "get it".

[Leemar]

I am so sorry for your loss.

[MistyFying]

ferret I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you'll find the support and hope you need here in the BB community

[~Aveta~]

we do get it, don't be concerned that you sound sad and at auch a loss...i felt/still do feel exactly the same way. especially when i see women with four or five in tow and still smoking and drinking...

maybe you could tell this girl that you just don't have the heart to talk baby talk right now? she sounds a bit insensitive to your loss...

[Mel A]

Hi Ferret,
This is the place. Vent away. It is strange, I tend to be happy for friends and the girls and guy's on BB. But, send someone at work or or in the gereral population my way and GRRRRR
Why is it that these people who don't seem to care can pop out a couple of kids at their lesure and we have to go through heart ache, charting, testing everything.

Big hugs for you , my heart is with you for your journey.

Mel

[bellsbaby]

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby.

I would like to pass this email that I got from a very special person to me (whom is a very experienced midwife) I cried and cried when I recieved it but found truth in all that she was saying! and although I have had my angry days and do think why me I am a good person I never forget what she has said to me. I hope it may help you with yourhard times and to get you over the hurdel of having to deal with others pregnancies.

Email
It will be of no consequence to say to you that although this little one was with you for such a short time, you will never forget him or her.

You have done nothing wrong, in fact you are a very special person and only special people are ever chosen for these experiences. Luck or fate plays no part in this type of life event.

You now have an amazing gift to share, because you will have enormous empathizing power when you meet women who have trod the same path as yourself. Believe me, there are many of us on this path. And each story will serve as a pin-***** of pain, because you will never, ever forget. However, you can turn it into a positive thing and use this little one?s light to help guide your way.


I hope her words help you as they did me

Bells Baby

M/C 14/2/08 Billy my little valentine