It's so unfair!

[Mel A]

Hi Ferret,
This is the place. Vent away. It is strange, I tend to be happy for friends and the girls and guy's on BB. But, send someone at work or or in the gereral population my way and GRRRRR
Why is it that these people who don't seem to care can pop out a couple of kids at their lesure and we have to go through heart ache, charting, testing everything.

Big hugs for you , my heart is with you for your journey.

Mel

[bellsbaby]

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby.

I would like to pass this email that I got from a very special person to me (whom is a very experienced midwife) I cried and cried when I recieved it but found truth in all that she was saying! and although I have had my angry days and do think why me I am a good person I never forget what she has said to me. I hope it may help you with yourhard times and to get you over the hurdel of having to deal with others pregnancies.

Email
It will be of no consequence to say to you that although this little one was with you for such a short time, you will never forget him or her.

You have done nothing wrong, in fact you are a very special person and only special people are ever chosen for these experiences. Luck or fate plays no part in this type of life event.

You now have an amazing gift to share, because you will have enormous empathizing power when you meet women who have trod the same path as yourself. Believe me, there are many of us on this path. And each story will serve as a pin-***** of pain, because you will never, ever forget. However, you can turn it into a positive thing and use this little one?s light to help guide your way.


I hope her words help you as they did me

Bells Baby

M/C 14/2/08 Billy my little valentine

[ferret]

Thank you all so much for your support. It means a lot that there are people who understand. Your email Bellsbaby, was just what I needed to read. Thank you.

I spoke to her, told her that while I am very happy for her, it hurts right now to hear her details. She seemed ok with that and then came back two/three hours later with yet more questions about what to expect and hospitals etc. I swear - you can't make this stuff up! I haven't seen her today - TG!

But thank you all once again for your support.

[BekZ]

Firstly sorry for your loss and secondly good on you for being upfront with your work collegue. Unfortunately ppl who have never experienced a loss just don't get it. I know I was one of them when pg with DD1. All the best.

[tempus moriendi]

I'm so sorry you had to go through this, then having a coworker with her constant questions just feels like salt in the wound. Sending cyberhug and keeping you in my prayers.

[chris]

I am sorry to hear your sad news. Plus that co-worker needs to be told off to get her to understand.
She is soooo out of line, how insensitive.
Try and be straight with her. Something like " I miscarried not long ago and I don't want to talk about babies at the moment if you have any questions ask someone else.
Give her some web addresses that could help her.
Take care
Chris

[munchy]

Hi ferret

i am so sorry to hear of the loss of your little bub it is so hard and life is unfair at times i feel the same as you i see people who smoke when pregnant and party and even drink and it drives me crazy i think why cant i have a healthy baby i no i would give it the best life ever and look after myself while pregnant its just unfair i just lost my secound baby almost 2 weeks ago and was devestated still am as i lost my little girl before that pregnancy at 23 weeks and thought well surely nothing will go wrong this time but it did. i am going back to work monday and feeling really anxious about it luckly no one is pregnant that i no of i think that girl at your work needs to shut her trap ah expecially after you already saying that you dont want her to ask you she should respect that and good on you for saying something i dont think i could be as brave. take care honey and whenever you need to vent this is def the place to come.

bellsbaby
that email was beautiful made me cry its words like that that really help at sad times like this thanks for sharing it.

Munchy xxx