Sorry for your loss.Take time for yourself.

I've known people who after an early m/c and d&c have taken the remains and buried them. Make it very clear to the Ob what YOU want to happen to your little angel. Ask if it is possible to do the d&c under an epi, just a suggestion, if you would like to be awake and hold your precious one. They can't refuse you if you want to see and hold your bub. @ 20 weeks you are legally able to bury or cremate. If you want to, ask to speak to the social worker at the hospital the one I spoke to when I lost my DS was incredible. She organised alot for us and was a valuable liason with the staff on the ward as to how we wanted DS to be handled after I was discharged.

Feel free to pm if you have any other questions.