Crumpert, I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine what you are going through right now, but I just wanted to say be kind to yourself hun. Take all the time you need, everyone else can wait to see you and when you're ready to let the world back in, they'll all be there waiting with open arms.
Dh is doing a beautiful job helping you through each day and I'm sure you're doing more for him than you even realise, you're there for eachother and taking comfort in eachother which is so important.
Big for yourself and Shan. I wish you all the strength with each passing to get you and DH through this terrible time.
Thinking of you both.