Big hugs Kennedy will always be with you, no matter if you never saw him/her (on that point, it may be easier for you to just choose a gender to refer to him/her by? What did your gut say?)

I agree with you on the point of people being insensitive of your loss. One of my cousins - who has had two late losses herself - tried to tell me this week that "people don't count them for a reason" because I was complaining that my Nan's obituary said she had 16 great-grandchildren. Ianto was her 17th (not counting my cousin's two losses, since she doesn't count them herself) and she'd never have discounted him "just because" he was stillborn. I actually had to hold myself back at the funeral from snapping at my cousin that she might not think her babies count, but I certainly think my SON counts. I actually did slip it into my speech that I was so proud that Nan counted him, unlike some people...

...Ahem, sorry. If you stick around, you'll see I'm prone to rants/talking about myself Welcome to bellybelly, in any case