Normal???

[loopy_girl21]

Let me start by sharing my story... I am happily engaged to an amazing guy. I lost my baby about a month and a half ago... I don't feel 'normal' yet. I was Very excited about being pg and now it's gone. The first week all I did was cry. Now I don't cry but I want to talk about it all the time. I want to know that my fiance' is still sad too... I don't know if this is normal or now. And when do things get to like they were, if ever... Is there anything that I can do to make myself feel better???

[Arimeh]

Hi, firstly, welcome to BB. I'm sorry that you have experienced a loss
I've not personally suffered a loss, but I believe the only way to work through grief is to do just that - WORK through it... talk about it, write down your feelings, write poetry, stories, etc, whatever works for you. Nobody grieves in the same way, or for the same amount of time so its whatever you need to do to help yourself.
There are plenty of beautiful women on these forums that will give you the support you need to help you through.
Take care of yourself.

[loopy_girl21]

Honestly, I don't know what to do to make myself feel better. I don't want to cry. But I know I'm not over it because I am so jealous of other pg women. I just had a friend who had a baby, and I'm happy for her, but don't understand why she had one but not me??? I just know that I'm not over it or how to get there.

[diannescruffy]

Hi hun,
Sorry to hear about your loss. Everyone grieves in different ways, and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. If you feel like crying then cry, trust your body and your feelings. I lost my baby two years ago and still cry. Things will get easier for you. Welcome to BB and just know that we know what your going through and will be here to support you.

Take care,
Dianne

[loopy_girl21]

Thank You! I really apperciate everyone so far. It's nice to know that there are others out there who know my pain. I feel very alone... I think this is going to help alot. Sadly this is my second mc and I"m afraid there is something wrong with me.

[curl]

Hello and hugs to you. I found when I lost our baby that my DH didn't ever seem comfortable with talking about our loss. I would want him to show emotions and talk about things but he was grieving in a very different way to me. Close friends weren't much help to me nor were relatives unless they had been through a pregnancy that didn't work out. Even a friend who had a bub die at 3 months of age wasn't much help as her experience was so different. My point is, you are in the right place, bellybelly helped me immensely just by reading other people's stories and posting your story may help you too as you are NOT alone. My DH and I are expecting again and I now know how hard things were for my DH as he is there in so many subtle ways although he never expressed himself properly. He's in the navy and has told his captain that we are about to be in the same stage of pregnancy as when we lost our son. I didn't ask him to tell his boss, he did it himself. The reason is because if something happens again they will allow him to fly home to be with me for support. If the miscarriage didn't effect him, he wouldn't have said anything and its obviously playing on his mind. Give your partner time to grieve in his own way but leave the communications open when he wants to talk. I don't think any person feels completely 'normal' after a loss. Vent, rant, rave and share your story here and you will find support and encouragement from all.

Curl