I am so sorry to hear what you went through. I went through a similar experience with my first m/c and yes, I agree, I would never wish m/c on anyone. I was also offered the same three choices and I chose the drugs that induce labour, which resulted in a similar outcome to yours.

I am thinking of you sweetie, and am here for you if you need someone to talk to. Did the hosp give you any numbers to call to talk to someone about it? I found I needed some counselling afterwards, especially several months later when I suffered my second m/c. You are right - people just don't understand, they tell you just to try again or that there was probably something wrong with the baby anyway. They just don't get it... I found so many reactions so completely unhelpful or even hurtful that I didn't even tell anybody when I had my second m/c.

Thinking of you...

Bun xx