I dont know if Im alone here or not, but I was absolutely appauled the other day at my dp's sister and sil.
Well firstly, the other day at our local shopping centre, my dp and I were getting some necessities when we saw his sister who is due to have her bub in November. The first thing she said was "Im sick of this baby, do you want it?"!!!! I couldnt believe you would say that, especially when she knows I went thru a m/c a couple of months ago!
Then not long after that we were talking to my dp's parents and they told us about their dil who is also due to have her bub in November.
She has been drinking and smoking (and I dont mean nicotine!) throughout her whole pregnancy! How could she do this, even her partner commented that she needs to be 'dried out'....
I think this is such a bad thing, why do people treat their pregnancies with such blahness (IYKWIM), I mean there are people out there who are desperate to have babies and would do almost anything to have one, and then you get these people who just take pregnancy like its just another day.
Sorry to whine about this, but i get so angry at people who arent greatful for what they have been blessed to have. Its people like these that need to go thru a few heartaches (I know that is a bad thing to say, but I am sure you all know what I mean) to appreciate life more...
Well I just had to get that out, I hope I havent offended anyone in the meantime.
No offence taken here! I totally understand what you mean though, but unless people go through a loss of a baby, they will never truly understand! IYKWIM
Lindy that's terrible what you have had to go through with that experience... I havent suffered a m/c before but I konw i would never take my pregnancy (once we are pregnant!) for granted ever cos i want to be a mummy so very badly... i cant believe ppl can smoke and drink in their pregnancies either, regardless of their past experiences... it's wrong....
I'm sorry it seems everyone is rubbing it in your face too, it must make it hard, i'm sure DP's parents didnt mean to say it like that and some ppl just don't think before they talk!
:hugs: to you xxx
Lindy, that really is awful. Some people just don't think.
I can remember after my second m/c walking past a heavily pg lady smoking and I just couldn't help drop my jaw in disgust. I just can't believe how some people can behave when they just do not realise how lucky they are.
I found people who have not been through a loss just have no idea what it feels like and can say the most hurtful and inappropriate things at times. I actually told hardly anybody about our second m/c because some of the reactions to the first one were so hurtful. All I can say is lucky we have BB, it's great to have somewhere you can go where people understand!!
no you most deffinately are not alone.
when i had my m/c i was so angry, i work in a pharmacy which has the methadone program, some of these chicks were pg and had told me they had used (heroin!) throughout. i could not stop thinking that it is so unfair that these girls can have healthy pg's while doing drugs and smoking, while i gave up smoking, dont do drugs, wouldnt touch a drink, tried to eat all the right things etc...
and bun you are so right about bb, we are truly lucky to have this.
Lindy, you are SO not alone. I felt the same way when I saw & heard things like that, even before we ever fell pg. As you know it's even harder once you've lost a little one.
HUGS. Sorry you had to go through that.
LJ268 I know exactly what you mean. In my job i come in contact with a lot of people and one springs into mind that i had dealings with she was 7 months pregnant and just 'shot up' i remember seeing her at the hospital and all she was saying was get this ****!!!! (not nice words) out of me - i dont want it any way. Thats when i start to think..... When i was pregnant i would not drink coffee or even a sip of wine with dinner - but then we have people in this would like the female that i referred to just "popping" bubs out. It saddens me a great deal - to know the type of life that poor bub would have - then there are people who try so hard probably can give a little one the perfect life but are unable to. I struggle with this...
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