no you most deffinately are not alone.
when i had my m/c i was so angry, i work in a pharmacy which has the methadone program, some of these chicks were pg and had told me they had used (heroin!) throughout. i could not stop thinking that it is so unfair that these girls can have healthy pg's while doing drugs and smoking, while i gave up smoking, dont do drugs, wouldnt touch a drink, tried to eat all the right things etc...
and bun you are so right about bb, we are truly lucky to have this.