Note to Clairebear: DON'T DON'T DON'T torture yourself now because of things you thought when you were a teenager. You come from a Christian background--you know God doesn't play "gotcha!" with us. But we all can't help but wonder when we feel down-and-out if something we thought or did years ago is causing our problems now. That's so normal and so human.

Note to Odette: there's nothing selfish about wanting another baby. No matter how many children we have, we never feel that we can spare one...