Hi Mel,

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss and now your bedrest.

After my loss I cut myself off from most of my family and friends, I don't regret it, I just needed to deal with things myself. I felt much more comfortable talking to other women online who had been through similar situations.

Although my friends and family have been good to me, chatting to other women I've learned that it's very common that you feel let down by the reactions of those in your life. Many people just don't know what to say so they say nothing, others mean well but end up saying the wrong thing. Some just aren't the friends you thought they were. Try and hold onto the good ones.

The other thing I dread is people who think they know how I feel... a friend whose partner had a healthy son recently told me he knew how I felt because she'd had a first trimester miscarriage... while I can appreciate that would have been devastating, it's not the same, and the fact that they have a healthy child now made me angry that he would say that. It's normal to go through this I think,you just have to take it a day at a time.

Good luck,

Rozzie