Secondly, I can totally relate to your feelings. I have had 2 early m'c's and 1 late loss, and have also gone on to have 3 kids. But I could not stand to even look at a pregnant woman, after my losses. I'd think "how come you get to keep you baby and I didn't?" It was really difficult. You aren't alone with the jealousy thing there. Sometimes I still feel ripped off when people sail through their pregnancies without ever having a m/c....because I went through so much and they have no idea, iykwim. I also felt so evil for not being happy for people, but thats just the way I felt and nothing could change that.
My only advice is : do whatever you need to do get throught his time. For me, that meant totally avoiding certain people, my in-laws, and whern I did get pregnent again, I actually ignored it in a certain way, didn't talk about it or tell anyone, that was just how i dealt with it. I wrote in a journal, had a ceremony. You gotta do what you gotta do is my opinion!!
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