I'm so sorry for your loss, and understand what you're going through.
I had my third loss a week before my best friend gave birth to her first baby. She was so worried about how to tell me she was holding her beautiful baby girl when mine had been taken from me. It was a very hard situation for both of us but although I was so profoundly upset about my own baby, I was so happy for her and wanted to share in her daughter's life - I am now her godmother. Tables turned on us last year when my same girlfriend had been trying for a considerable period of time to conceive her second child, having had another loss herself and was now lfaced with the reality of IVF. I fell pregnant very quickly with my second daughter and was so worried about how my friend would deal with my pregnancy in light of her own significant problems. At the end of it all, we just needed each other too much to not be honest about our feelings. My friend supported me through what was a difficult pregnancy and she would regularly use me as a shoulder to cry on through her IVF journey. I'm relieved to say that she is now 7 months pregnant and we are both able to share in the joy of each other's babies.
I wish you and your friend the best of luck - your friend for her current baby and you for the journey ahead of you. I hope you have a swift road to your own beautiful baby, but in the meantime, give yourself time to grieve and don't be too hard on yourself if some days you look at your friend's growing belly and feel anger, resentment, jealous and everything else that is so natural to feel.
i still feel a bit confused and numb. but i'm off to work later this morning and i just don't know how i will go. I work quite close with my friend and i haven't told her yet. I'll have to do ASAP, so that she doesn't think the wrong thing.
again thankyou, and i'm praying that it gets easier.
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