Hello, I had a miscarriage at 15 weeks after a horrible first trimester of hyperemisis and a weight loss of 4.5kg. The nausea and vomiting was constant from the time I found out I was pregnant. At my routine check up, dr found baby had no heartbeat, and that devistated me. Once confirmed, I was induced and delivered a sleeping baby boy. Oh how painful it has been the past few weeks. I struggle to keep my tears back each time I see a pregnant lady or a new born baby. When will the emptyness ease?
Big hugs - I am so sorry for your loss I truely am.
The pain of a loss never goes nor does it ease, however you will find each day there are ways around the feelings you have now , some days you won't cry as much and other days you will cry a lot.
All of it is perfectly normal.
I have had two losses in a row and the heartbreak is always present, but somehow you keep on going - I don't know where the strength to do so comes from but its there and you will find it too.
BB is a great place to seek comfort and support so use the forums to vent/cry and laugh as you need to.
I found by not sitting around "dwelling" has helped me I got back into work and other activities as quickly as I could to get those endorphines pumping. You'll find your own path.
A little thing was once said to me and it helped in a small way - only very special women are chosen mothers to Angels and I believe this is true.
You'll never forget your angel, but each day will hopefully get a little better for you. It's been 7 months since I lost my angel, and even being pregnant again doesn't erase the pain of my lost baby. From time to time I still have a few tears for the baby I'll never hold in my arms.
Please don't place any expectations on yourself. Each person grieves differently, and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Take whatever time you need for yourself, and do whatever gets you through each day.
And importantly, if you need someone to lean on, don't be afraid to ask for help. I hope their are people in your life that can help you through this. But if not, the ladies in this forum are wonderful and will always lend a supporting shoulder.
I'm sorry for your loss. Over time it does get easier. The way I learnt to handle seeing pregnant women & young babies was to imagine they were someone like me who had suffered infertility & loss & that they'd finally got lucky. That somehow made it a little easier.
Jenny just wanted to say i'm so sorry for your loss. I don't think we will ever get over the pain of losing our baby but we somehow learn to live with what has happened even though our hearts yearn for them every day.
I thought exactly like Satya did - I used to see pregnant women and newborns and get so sad and jealous (hard to admit that) but then thought that they too may have suffered the way some of us have and it got easier.
Sending you lots of strength and big big hugs to help you get through this time. We are all here for you.
Thankyou so much for your kind words. I didn't realise how many women had suffered a similar misfortune. I try to keep strong by appreciating my 2 beautiful girls (7 and 9 years).
Satya and dd0207, your advice is much appreciated and makes a lot of sense. Thankyou.
NaeNae and Kristylove, your kind words of sympathy mean so much to me.
It is so comforting to know that somewhere out there, there are complete strangers who care so much. Thankyou once again.
I do have some good news, my periods started again today. For the first time in my life I was overjoyed to get monthlies.
When does the pain stop?
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