Why ? Life is so unfair! I want my baby back.....

[maybe baby]

i'm so sorry

[Miss.B]

EM, I am very sorry for your loss. I lost my baby at 20 weeks, and four and a half months later, I am ready to try again. I was absolutely pertified of going through a loss again, but nothing is guaranteed in life and if I was too scared to try again, I would not have a chance of having another baby. You'll go through some very hard and painful emotions, because you are grieving for your baby and for what could have been, but it will become easier to cope with, and you will heal one day. It will get better, and only you will know if you will, or will not try for another baby, and when. I know I will still be terrified when I'm pregnant again, but I'm willing to take the chance.
You're in my prayers and so is your angel baby.
Beata xxx

[Joselyn]

Hi, I just wanted to say that I understand how you feel and that I am really sorry for your loss.

I have had two losses, one at 13 weeks and one at 23. They were for totally different reasons and the second one is manageable now that I know why it happened (just saying that to ensure you don't get freaked out about trying again).

The hardest thing is the way people will respond. So many people don't know what to say and most of the time you probably don't even know what you want to hear. I don't have a baby yet - we're still trying. And I think that even though you already have three children, the loss is just as painful as the rest of us - so your nurse really shouldn't have suggested that you be 'happy with what you've got'. Time heals some of the pain but I don't think there is a day gone by that I haven't thought of my girls. But one thing a midwife said (which was hard at the time but true) was that life is so short. We can't hold on to the bitterness forever...

You may not know when the time is right, you might try straight away (I did). My only advice is that you don't listen to anyone else's opinions about when is the right time. You'll know.

I wish you and your husband much happiness, and again I'm really sorry that this happened to you. Love Joselyn.