I dont even know where to start with this, I got a phone call yesterday morning at 4 oclock to say my best freinds bubby had died, I went and sat with her all day, cried with her, and am there for her and her family, it is just so unfair, Litltle breella was just 5 weeks old, and although people say it happened for a reason I keep thinking what reason could there be for taking a beautiful little angel from her mummy and daddy and sisters and brothers and everyone else that loves her so dearly,My freind is blamming herself and keeps saying dont bring your kids here I just kill them. It hurts so much to hear the nightmares and her screaming out for them to give her baby back, I am sitting here in tears not knowing what to do, have come home to have a good cry myself as am trying to be strong for her, all she wants is a bullet and a gun, I just cant cope, what do I do
Mel - you're doing everything you can by simply being there for your friend and her family. Their pain at this time is going to be massive - it will seem insurmountable - all you can do is be a friend - a shoulder to cry on and someone to support them through everything that happens in the coming weeks and months. it is going to be terrible for them, and extremely hard on you as a friend - let them see that you're grieving - and then just take their lead as to what they need from you.
with your friend saying not to bring your children over - i'm guessing it's her way of saying she just couldn't cope with their pressence at the moment - it's not about them, it's about her own grief. it's probably just not something she is comfortable expressing to you. again, take her lead - she'll let you know when she's ready.
this is a tragedy - and it will take youall a massive amount of time and understanding for your friends to grieve their angel baby. you're being a fantastic friend by being there for them. just wanting to send you all massive hugs - i'm sure others who've lost an angel baby after birth can give you some more advice
Mel I'm so sorry to hear of your friend's terrible loss. I cant imagine what you are all going through but just want to send my love and prayers xx I'm sure the support that you are showing to her and her family will help them pull through. No doubt this will take an emotional toll on everyone so just remember to take care of yourself too so that you can remain strong for your friend
Oh Mel I'm so so sorry, its just not fair. I really dont know what to say, other than offering you and your friend my condolences. Really sorry to hear this, its absolutely devestating.
I am so sorry for the loss your friend has experienced. THis is just devasting - and i don't think anyone of us could begin to imagine what it is like for her to loose a 5week old baby. There are no words i can say to ease her pain - just be there for her is the only advise i have.
I am so so so sad to read this. What a wonderful friend you are. It is really really hard to just 'be' with someone as they grieve. To sit with her as she rides these waves of emotion and knowing that you can't take it away.
Please give her the option of contacting sids for kids. Even for you it may help to debrief. Sending love to your friend and to you a very special friend indeed...
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