I too just wanted to let you know I think your DP mother was WAY out of line saying something like that and you hav`nt overreacted at all IMO.

I had a missed miscarriage in Nov 07 I also was 9 weeks along, I dont know about others but I just found it so so hard to deal with especialy since there was no physical indication of a loss.

Take all the time you need and when the time is right you will get back out there... dont be hard on yourself, you have been through enough already.