No worries Fiona! Your 'rambling' has helped a lot! I definitely agree about the whole keep her in the loop stuff. I have asked my dad (his side of the family) to let them know how we feel. That way we can know for sure whether plans have been made. At this point I don't even know whether the likelihood of it being terminal has even been acknowledged. I am hoping for her sake there is someone who she can go to who she is close with from her own country as I can just imagine what an upheaval it will all be for her already let alone moving to another country. But we needed to put it out there so she at least has some options. Your situation sounds pretty complicated. I hope it all turns out well for you guys!
I have never been in this situation but I would also suggest looking into immigration visas as well to see if there is one that you are eligible in this situation.
I guess the adoption thing would depend on her birth countrys laws, you should be able to become her guardian easily enough.
I know under australian law you can not arrange a private adoption. I went through a heap of s*** to get my girl and in the end even though her birth parents and I consider it full adoption, legally I only have legal guardianship of my little princess.
As someone mentioned you can look into the visa requirements for if/when it happens.
I guess if you all discuss the options and if it is what the mother and child want to happen maybe it needs to be made official with a lawyer or something.
Good luck with it (But I hope it doesn't need to happen, that poor girl has been through enough losing one parent)
Hi there. Well I found out we can't adopt her as there is no country agreement for Holland to Australia and we can't sponsor into Australia because a cousin isn't considered a close enough relative. We are waiting to see what happens at the moment with my aunties health. I suspect she is in denial at the moment and therefore probably hasn't thought about possibilities. But my dad will broach it again when it seems to be appropriate. He and my mum would sponsor her as an uncle is a close enough relative. They have just retired and live a bit far out though. So I guess we will see. But I agree - lets hope all will be well.
If your parents sponser her to come out can she still live with you? even if on paper work she lives with them???
Just a thought to consider and discuss.
Hope you aunt is getting on ok (at least as well as she can)
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