Adoption - Just want to find out more..

[mrsmac]

That was so interesting Kate, now I am desperate to find out what happened too.

[smiles4u]

I looked into adoption about a year ago (mind you just over the Net) ... and DP & i are excluded for so many reasons from all the countries i could read about their adoption policies ... for example either we aren't married, or have not lived long enough together in a defacto relationship, or more importantly i am regarded as too old as the cut off line for the Mother's age is 42 at the most , so there goes that as i'm 43 (i didn't realise i was already one foot in the grave)

We would so dearly love another child & a sibling for our almost 3year old DD

[HotI]

That was so interesting Kate, now I am desperate to find out what happened too.

I went searching and found a link to Part 2- but it didn't work! If i do find it, i will PM you the link.

That site has so many great articles. I found this one from the social worker or advocate's point of view on finding the right family for a child.

Salon.com Life | Picking parents for Joshua

(OK, I won't post any more)

cheers,

kate

[widdly]

kate i loved the Joshua story, what wonderful people!

[mrsmac]

What a lovely story about joshua but what a shame she discounted infertile couples.

[M7Missy]

My cousin has adopted from Taiwan she got her son 3 years ago and has just got her daughter so it must be quicker from there than 8 years. I know she found that older children get placed quicker than babies so if you are prepared for a toddler it will be faster. Her DS was nearly 2 when she got him but her DD is only 10 months.

I asked my g/f about this today and she said it depending on the country that people are adopting through and she said it can also depend on the state you start in - she explained that one part of the process they went through in victoria that took them about 3 months now takes people starting about 2 years.
She has explained to me in the past because she was limited with country choice (requirements) they had little choice. She also said that even if she was to withdraw her application and chose another country - her paperwork would have to come back here and then she would have to wait for a place in the quota system. She said that it could be up to 2 years before her paperwork was then sent to another country and then she would also have to wait for the countries individual allocation system which would likely be another 2 years (with maybe the exception of the Phillipiness - but her DH is Jewish so that counts out that country).

She said that the process has changed a lot for those starting out now and the length of waits those at the start facing.

[rubibaby]

great article kate