Hi aussiegirl73 and balletmum - welcome to Belly Belly!
As new members, the PM system does not activate until you have 30 posts. But if you would each like to send me your email addresses I can send them to the other, if you'd like to get in touch with each other off-forum. My email address is suse@bellybelly.com.au
In October final orders are going to be given so we should know if we'll be having him full time or not.. fingers crossed, I hope so as it'll break my heart if he has to leave us. He's such a huge part of our lives now, we love him dearly.
Kind of thinking about foster care. We have had a total of 9 transfers with IVF, with no baby at the end. We were to have our 10th today but the embryo did not make in thru the freezing/thawing stages. I am heartbroken - but have pondered over the years about Fostering should IVF not work for us. All we really want is to be a family - we would love to share our lives with a little one - we are older as you can see so don't even know if we would be allowed an infant? Or would we be classified to old? My husband has had back surgery, very successful and has not had a problem carrying on with his job floor/wall tiler - however would they knock us back on the medical for him having had back surgery in the past ? What are the steps for fostering? How long does it take - we would love to adopt but we have been told that takes years - is the waiting list for foster carers long ? Does anyone have any information that they can share? OR does anyone have any advice? Would love to know more.
so sorry to hear about your losses *hugs* it sure is heartbreaking when all you'd like to do is start a family. After I started having miscarriages we started thinking about adoption than a miracle happened and Arden came along. We tried again numerous times and it just wasnt going to happen so after DH kept on hearing ads about fostering we decided to look into it and it's one of the best things we have ever done.
Contact your local DOCS office for an information pack to find out more. There is no obligation either, you can change your mind at anytime during the process. It took us just over a year before everything happened all at once, it was amazing!
There's different types of care too, you can do respite care, short term care and long term care. Definately contact DOCS and they will help you out with the applications, good luck. Let me know how it goes
I hope you don't mind me asking you a couple of questions re fostering.
Me turning 44 next month and DH will be turning 51 next month - would we be considered to old? Can you choose what age child gets a placement with you? I think we would want to to permanent care if possible as i just don't think i could bear having a child ripped away from me after bonding - do you have to be a certain age to have under 3-5yr olds? I have hundreds more questions - i have read some real horror stories about fostering older kids and that sort of scares me a bit but yet again i have read some wonderful stories about fostering?
Oh by the way have you recieved permanent care of your little one? I sure hope you did.
I'm not sure what the age limit is to be honest, however I was talking to a lady at Ardens pre school the other day and she knew a lady that fostered right up til she passed away from cancer aged in her 60's.
From what they told us, the age group you ask for has to be younger than your oldest child, so that's why we were given a baby as we put down 3yrs and under. You have more of a chance of recieving a baby or toddler if your going for full time care.
Still waiting to hear if we'll be getting long term care for our little one, l'll be shattered if he has to go, he's such a beautiful boy...
Thanks for the reply. Its so hard to try and make a decision about adoption or long term foster care - all i know is we want to share our life with a little person.
I really really hope and that you get orders to have long term care of the little one in your care. Getting closer to making a decision and from what i read on the websites about fostering there is no upper age limit - it just depends on whether or not we are suitable in their eyes. Kim - so i guess the first step for us would be to have a Doc's case worker come out and see us? Then what happens after that? Just would like to get a feel for things first if you know what i mean. Any advise you have would be great.
Again i so hope things go your way :goodluck2:
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that you get orders to have long term care of the little one in your care. Getting closer to making a decision and from what i read on the websites about fostering there is no upper age limit - it just depends on whether or not we are suitable in their eyes. Kim - so i guess the first step for us would be to have a Doc's case worker come out and see us? Then what happens after that? Just would like to get a feel for things first if you know what i mean. Any advise you have would be great.
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