Hi Everyone,
I know that this is a forum about people wanting to adopt, but I just thought that I would let you know of my experience in the hope that it can help potential adoptive parents.
I was adopted from birth and have always known it. I dont remember ever being told, it was just "there". My father always used to say that i was special because they got to pick me out of all the other babies that needed mummies and daddies. Obviously, that wasnt the case, but it served to make me feel loved and wanted.
My parents split up when I was 6 but maintained a very healthy relationship for my sake. Both parents eventually remarried (other people of course) and I can never remember any arguments or any tension. My mother passed away when I was 10 and I went to live with my grandmother who was a lovely lady. She passed away when I was 16 and I was on my own from then. Despite these tragedies, I always felt loved and cared for by my father and extended family.
When I fell pregnant with my first child, they asked all sorts of medical questions about my natural family and my husband encouraged me to find out who they were. At 21 years of age, and with a lot of luck I made a phonecall to my natural mother, who put me in touch with my natural father. I have a close relationship with both my families and feel extra lucky to have so many people to love my kids, DH and myself.
I say go for it to anyone thats considering adoption. If you can give lots of love and time to a baby when its mother cant you should defifnitely do it.
Hope this has offered a different perspective on adoption. Good Luck!!!