Hi Rayla,

I too was adopted, however I was actually around 4 years old when it was finalised. Mine was due to... let's just say bad treatment by parent. I only remember one thing prior to living with the foster parents who adopted me and that was going to the shop in my pj's with the family who fostered my brother and I before mum and dad did. I don't remember ever being told I was adopted or knowing any different to living with them (weird I know but true). I think that is one of the most important things with adoption, letting the child know and not have them find out by accident when they are older. I've heard so many stories about people not being told because they were scared of the child wanting to leave or whatever and they have felt so much more hurt by not having been trusted and told by the people they love most (personal choice I know, but I believe not right). There is curiosity to an extent and I met my biological mother when I was 20 however we don't maintain a relationship which is my choice. I do from time to time speak to my half brother though.

I always giggle when asked "family history" by a doctor because they look at you weird when you say you don't know. I'm so totally fine with being adopted and don't understand why people when they find out go, oh I'm sorry, like they're embarrassed. I forget people don't know because it's like Rayla said, always was just "there".

If I was unable to have children I would have no hesitation in adopting. I have even entertained the idea of adopting one anyway. I hope I haven't rambled but wanted to back Rayla on this one