Caro, thank you so much again for talking to me so openly about this and directing me to some really wonderful resources, it's what I have been looking for!

DH and I have always talked between us about how important we feel it will be to be very open and honest with our child about how they came to be our child from the very beginning. I have come across some really lovely childrens books that share the some sentiment that the book your parents gave to you did.

I think I will be able to understand & relate in a small way about how this child that comes in to our lives will feel sometimes. My father is not someone who has had too much to do with my life since I was a young girl, I don't even think of him as a father really. But I have a step-father who has treated me as one of his children. He has been more a father than the man who is biologically connected to me ever has. But I have also struggled at times in my life with sense of belonging and just being different to the others in my family.

We don't feel there is any shame involved with adoption at all. We want to talk about it and share this journey as much as possible. When the time comes that someone gives a baby to us, we want everyone to know how our baby came to be our baby. We tell everyone about what we doing and whilst all are so supportive & happy for us, some people do react in a shocked way. My MIL was someone who did, the first thing she said was "Oh don't worry about that, you'll get pregnant in Europe next year" and we just said "No we could not be happier about adopting, this is what we are doing".