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My sister has been dobbed into docs again by my mother at the moment she is living in a caravan park and if Docs hurry up they might finally catch her this time just wondering If the kids are taken away would they even consider me being that she is currently one town over from me this time? Or is it possible the kids could be given to their dad which they have never had a relationship?
Im really hoping I can get them if they are taken away, although me and my sister dont talk and shes not welcome in my house? So I guess its a broken relationship also but I do have her kids every time she is close.
Sorry this post is all over the place wish I could just take them away and look after them like they deserve.
Thanks Keike I had not thought of that will do it first thing tommoz, just found out off mum shes taken off again so i would say they wont catch her wish there was more i could do
There's a fair amount to do to become a foster carer, even if it is for family. If you can get the process started now, even if your sister has done a runner, then hopefully you'll be set up or close to it when they catch up with her. I know that the dept wants to keep children together and with family when practical, so I wouldn't think they'd have a problem with it
Even though she's taken off again they probably will catch up with her eventually so maybe contact DOCS to get the wheels in motion now for the day that they catch her. If you have been checked out and approved before they find the children I imagine it would be better than if the first they hear of you is the day they take the children into care.
She did not get the kids back, have not herd any details and probably wont unless docs is able to tell me. Now I guess now docs will evalluate everyone going for the kids and make a decision on whats best. I did speak to a foster parent in town and she belives that I will not get the kids because I have a child under two, I am still going to try my hardest but that was a tough blow. I cannot stop thinking about my sister her in pain screaming down the phone at me keeps running through my head. Im so scared because she feels she has nothing left to live for and totally blames me and mum. We did report her to docs but so did 13 people other than us. Deep down I know I did the right thing but blood is thicker than water keeps running through my head. Also the poor confused kids I wish I could see them.
Well don't lose hope on hearsay. And don't allow yourself to feel guilty for the choices your sister has made. It sounds like she has made some bad decisions but they were her decisions and at the end of the day, the children's wellbeing is more important than protecting your sister. But I know you know that.
If you can, I would get in touch with your sister, tell her you love her but that she has to take responsibility for her actions ... and you will be there for her 100% when she wants to turn her life around. But until then, the kids come first.
Good luck! I haven't been in your situation exactly but I totally know how sucky it is when someone close keeps *****ing up.
Blood is thicker than water but these kids are your blood too. What you did was very difficult but it was right. Let’s hope your sister can get herself sorted out.
I'm pretty sure the under 2 rule wouldnt be a big deal for a family placement. As for your sister, she is old enough to make her own decisions and face the consequences, the children are not. They too are your blood and you have definitely done the right thing reporting your concerns. It takes a lot for DoCS to remove children from parental custody, you did the right thing!!!
Got a call from docs today they are sending me all the paperwork to fill out for application. Gosh this process takes a long time. Fionas thanks for the idea on ringing her I gave it a try and left her a msg saying I love her and will try my hardest to get her kids and love and look after them like my own until she is back on her feet.
Was not met warmly but hey what can you expect
Will let you know how crazy the paperwork is when i finally get my hands on it!!!!!!!!!!!!
Paperworks all finished going to post off tomorrow and then we have a house inspection anyone been in this position before? What do you think should I totally tidy up or just have it as we usually do? Also should I buy some stuff li9ke beds car seats?
The house inspection is a formality, to make sure you don't have bizarre stuff in your house and aren't living in a slum I would tidy, but not freak out making everything spotless, they already know you have children. And don't worry about the car seats yet, they will provide them if necessary. We were always told that the child would come with the necessities, which would continue to follow the child to other homes as well.
It's all sounding promising I would make sure your house is clean and reasonably tidy, and that it is a safe and nurturing environment for a child.
I wouldn't buy anything yet, but have plans for what you will need. Don't count on DoCS providing anything!!! My little (foster) brothers had the clothes on their backs, one had pjs and one had a jumper and that was it!!!
Good luck, I can't wait to read they are safe at home with you
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