Well don't lose hope on hearsay. And don't allow yourself to feel guilty for the choices your sister has made. It sounds like she has made some bad decisions but they were her decisions and at the end of the day, the children's wellbeing is more important than protecting your sister. But I know you know that.
If you can, I would get in touch with your sister, tell her you love her but that she has to take responsibility for her actions ... and you will be there for her 100% when she wants to turn her life around. But until then, the kids come first.
Good luck! I haven't been in your situation exactly but I totally know how sucky it is when someone close keeps *****ing up.
I'm pretty sure the under 2 rule wouldnt be a big deal for a family placement. As for your sister, she is old enough to make her own decisions and face the consequences, the children are not. They too are your blood and you have definitely done the right thing reporting your concerns. It takes a lot for DoCS to remove children from parental custody, you did the right thing!!!
Got a call from docs today they are sending me all the paperwork to fill out for application. Gosh this process takes a long time. Fionas thanks for the idea on ringing her I gave it a try and left her a msg saying I love her and will try my hardest to get her kids and love and look after them like my own until she is back on her feet.
Was not met warmly but hey what can you expect
Will let you know how crazy the paperwork is when i finally get my hands on it!!!!!!!!!!!!
Blood is thicker than water but these kids are your blood too. What you did was very difficult but it was right. Let’s hope your sister can get herself sorted out.
Paperworks all finished going to post off tomorrow and then we have a house inspection anyone been in this position before? What do you think should I totally tidy up or just have it as we usually do? Also should I buy some stuff li9ke beds car seats?
The house inspection is a formality, to make sure you don't have bizarre stuff in your house and aren't living in a slum I would tidy, but not freak out making everything spotless, they already know you have children. And don't worry about the car seats yet, they will provide them if necessary. We were always told that the child would come with the necessities, which would continue to follow the child to other homes as well.
It's all sounding promising I would make sure your house is clean and reasonably tidy, and that it is a safe and nurturing environment for a child.
I wouldn't buy anything yet, but have plans for what you will need. Don't count on DoCS providing anything!!! My little (foster) brothers had the clothes on their backs, one had pjs and one had a jumper and that was it!!!
Good luck, I can't wait to read they are safe at home with you
Docs rang again saying that they dont have the staff avalible to come do a house inspection as im 6hrs away!!!!!!!!!!!!cmon really what a joke! So instead she is going to set up three phone interviews with me and my partner???????????? In what world is this ok and how could they assess if this is a safe place for the children if they dont even meet me? On the phone i was all nice and yeh no worries but the more I think about it all i can think is this is not right?????
Unfortunately there are simply not enough frontline staff in many of these Departments to provide the best services for at-risk children. I agree that it is wrong but what can you do to change it?
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I would tidy, but not freak out making everything spotless, they already know you have children. And don't worry about the car seats yet, they will provide them if necessary. We were always told that the child would come with the necessities, which would continue to follow the child to other homes as well.
In what world is this ok and how could they assess if this is a safe place for the children if they dont even meet me? On the phone i was all nice and yeh no worries but the more I think about it all i can think is this is not right?????
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