The younger they are, the easier it is for them to just go "yep, fair enough", and it's not a big deal. They also grow up with the understanding that family is more than just being in someones tummy, so when they come across a different family structure at school where their peers may be fostered or adopted, it's not a weird thing, and their first reaction ISN'T to tell them that it's not a real family, or that you HAVE to have a mum and dad or etc etc. It's not really a hard topic to approach either. My partner is fostered, my mum is adopted, and obviously DD has two mums, and we just approach the whole thing with a very matter of fact tone about it all - family is family, it's being loved and cared for and it doesn't matter who does it or how you are a family, it's just family. That's how my parents and grandparents approached it with me about mums family. Todd Parr has some really excellent books on family and adoption, mostly for the under 8 age group, if that helps.
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