I know they're gonna go through all our history. I figure that if I give it all I've got, and they say I'm not a fit foster parent, well, at least that answers the question, and I'll deal with the emotional fallout from that. But being in this fertile Purgatory is horrible. I've spent years trying to move on from wanting to be a parent, and I just can't do it, I am a parent - I just don't have a child.

We = Professor and I. The question has come from the girl's grandmother and great-grandmother. I rang DCP last week and they mentioned the possibility that, because the little girl isn't with the women who are asking, it's possible that the family she's with would actually like to keep her, which I hadn't thought of. I hope it's not the case. Well, obviously it would be better for her to be with family. I guess for me I hope it's not the case.

Even if this little girl isn't the one for us, we're still going to go through the process. I keep reading about foster kids being abused etc, and I figure that even if I'm a bit nutty, I've got SO much love to give. It's not like they're looking for perfect parents!

Danita, thank you so much, that was exactly the type of info I'm looking for PM away!