Poppihome,

You sound very content with your decision - i that all your dreams come true.
My DH and I are still strugglling with the saddness repeated failed ivf cycles and we too have decided that its time to give ivf away - something i still struggle with.
We have been talking about fostering or adopting over the past year but with no firm decision as yet. Maybe we just need some more time to get over the loss of not having our own child/ren. Sometimes i think its harder for women than men ( i could be wrong on this one) but i feel women have more of an inbuilt need to nutrue than men, alot of men i know are happy to walk away from the TTC journey and go no further, i know if it was not for my strong desire/need/want whatever you want to call it my DH is behind me 100% . Maybe i am asking too much of myself by questioning things too much - i ask myself at times if we are to foster or adopt will we love this child unconditionally from the start? What if the child doesn't want to love us? It is just so scary but i just can't stop thinking about it - i know i am rambling but i guess in a funny way thats how women work things out, by talking or rambling on- lol. Poppi how long did the whole process take to get approved and what did you have to do. We both work , we have a mortgage, live on 15acres in the country, two dogs, 4 chickens and both have very loving families scattered around Australia. My DH is a floor/wall tiler and also renovates homes etc, we are a little worried tho that he has had two back operations and when we read things like they need medical reports etc does that mean that something like back operations will go against us - silly i guess - but i guess we are just frightened of being rejected - i don't know why we would be rejected, we are good people and have alot to share with a child, but we just kind of want to get a heads up on things.
Anyway poppi - would love to talk more about how you got to where you are and if you have any advise would love to hear it.
Hope your little one/s are not to far away.