I guess one of the problems is DH has expectations of his wife similar to what his mother was like (not work and stay at home with the kids, cooked meals, clean home etc) Now times have changed and we could not afford for me to stay at home anyway even if I wanted to. My current wage alone all goes in bills we have to pay where as his wage feeds us with a small amount left for extras and a little to be saved some times but not always.

Me working more hours plus the extra travel time means a lot more time away from home. And he would have to be more flexible with his work to pick the kids up and possibly go to work later if I was attending a birth overnight.

Although I try hard I am not the best cleaner and this makes him unhappy. More time away from home will mean less cleaning although less time at home to make it messy so maybe that's not an issue anyway. It would however mean more money to pay a cleaner once a week.

The job has not been advertised yet. It may not be advertised again for another 3-6months. After interviews and the like it may even be another 9months before I would start and that's not to say I would get the job anyway. It would really depend on who else applied. Recently they have 3 applicants for 2 jobs and they only gave 1 position out and knocked the other two back.

I am not exactly friends with the manager although we don't dislike each other either. I know I have additional qualifications to everyone else (been immunise trained and also now a child and family health nurse) I have also done all the compulsory courses as a child and family health nurse that need to be done to do this other job so that would mean less time away from the job if I got it and less money for them to have to pay if someone else got the job. I think this would be a big factor in who got that job. They are also having a lot of difficulty with postpartum concerns such as slow weight gain, mastitis, postnatal depression and jaundice with the current midwives not having experience outside the hospital. I think the fact I am also a CFHN would help too as this is one of the problems they are having with their clients when things don't go as planned (they pick up women from 12weeks pregnant and follow them through until 6weeks postpartum)

It sounds very complicated but I am worried if I don't apply I will regret it. I would also worry about spending more time away from my children. DH and I are also ttc although we don't hold a lot of hope in that. I have not been on contraception since my last child was born March 2011 and there is a good chance another 3 years will go past and I wont be pregnant so I that is not a turn off.