We don't have hearing loss but I can relate to your fear of having DS treated differently and/or as if he's slow. Our DS is almost two and not yet walking. We've just seen relateives interstate with one repeating numerous times "he's very bright" as I think they were expecting the worst. I fluctuated between feeling "yes, that's our bright little boy" to "grrr, what were you expecting".
I do find myself getting defensive of my son and his accomplishments. At times it's harder to keep that in check than others. I know he's a happy, healthy boy who just has a difficulty in one aspect and dont want people to assume that means more than it does.
You and Jett have come so far together. You are a good team and will get through this together too. Xx