I hope it's ok for me to post in here but this reminds me of comments I have received many times from people who tell me they wouldnt cope or survive if one of their kds died. I look at them and think, what's the alternative? You deal with the hand you're played in life. Some days are easier than others. It changes you but like anything in life, it's not what happens to you that counts. It's how you handle it. You're allowed to not 'cope' some days but the sun still rises and sets and you dust yourself off and get on with things. Or not, depending on each person's choices and capabilities. You can still have joy and laughter and fun amidst the challenges. I imagine it's similar with SN kids. Anyone please correct me if I'm wrong.

I find that someone would say that to you strange. Do they try to undermine your confidence in other ways? Do they have a special needs child themselves?