I too would take the pain and frustration away from my child in a heartbeat if I could. I don't want to change her quirkiness... I just know how high her anxiety levels are and how frustrated she gets in everyday situations which result in meltdowns and self harm and attacking physically... mainly myself and my husband. If I could ease that pain in anyway I would. When we found out she had some kidney abnormalities and ureter issues, we let her have surgery to help fix those problems... If someone could come up with someway to do away with depression in me, I would say "go for it"... In the same way I want her autism fixed. I don't mind that she flaps, or rocks, or flicks her fingers, or thinks differently, or socialises differently. Those are all fine with me. Its the anxiety levels and the frustration I want to help her with.

I think as parents we want to help in anyway possible. I know FB that you are coming from the perspective as one who doesn't think that you need "fixing" My BIL has Aspergers and he was telling us that she doesn't need "fixing". BUT at the moment, while I am typing this she is angry and frustrated and hitting DH because she can't figure out which rubber is hers and which is DD2's (they are exactly the same) and we can't tell her and she has just spit all over DD2, is smacking DH with a pencil and screaming... imagine if she didn't get so frustrated over a rubber. Imagine that.