I don't want to change her quirkiness... I just know how high her anxiety levels are and how frustrated she gets in everyday situations
Completely agree. As I said to a friend on FB when we were discussing this "Quirky is how we're hoping E gets. I don't think you can or need to cure a personality type. But we need to fix his anxiety, frustration, head banging, fussy eating, gut health, severe communication delay etc etc etc." I'm completely cool with quirky. Quirky would be fricking awesome. But my child, and our family, shouldn't have to accept this level of suffering. It's not a way to live.

I hope M is feeling better soon Christy. Dodging the blows can get exhausting