I cant do this I need some help & strategies like RIGHT NOW

[christy]

Mate.... deep breaths and a punching bag.

Even drugs take MONTHS to take effect when doing it with cognitive behavioural exercises. You need to get her to an OT or someone who does floortime which is emotional regulation help. That will help reduce the massive meltdowns.

I had a moment where I listened to my GP and gave M some drug that was supposed to sedate her for air travel... well... it had the opposite effect and she was more aggressive and agro than before.

[Cocolove]

Mate.... deep breaths and a punching bag.

Even drugs take MONTHS to take effect when doing it with cognitive behavioural exercises. You need to get her to an OT or someone who does floortime which is emotional regulation help. That will help reduce the massive meltdowns.

I had a moment where I listened to my GP and gave M some drug that was supposed to sedate her for air travel... well... it had the opposite effect and she was more aggressive and agro than before.

she starts seeing a child psychologist and OT on May 13th, it cant come soon enough

[christy]

Then wine, or beer, or something that will numb your mind at night.

Okay okay.... yoga or something more relaxing would probably help more, but my DH & I have used alcohol to get through the real crap times.

[Cocolove]

Then wine, or beer, or something that will numb your mind at night.

Okay okay.... yoga or something more relaxing would probably help more, but my DH & I have used alcohol to get through the real crap times.

hehe im a step ahead of you there, just had a glass of wine to calm me down sounds horrible i know

[Lulu]

ATTA GIRL - don't be silly, if it's a glass of wine you need (or three), go for it.

Let her scream like she is being murdered. It might help calm her down, or get some of the energy out. One thing - I NEVER withdraw the physical activities as punishments because you end up punishing yourself, maybe lose a toy instead?

[Cocolove]

ATTA GIRL - don't be silly, if it's a glass of wine you need (or three), go for it.

Let her scream like she is being murdered. It might help calm her down, or get some of the energy out. One thing - I NEVER withdraw the physical activities as punishments because you end up punishing yourself, maybe lose a toy instead?

It doesnt bother her when she looses a toy coz she destroys them anyway, I feel bad for punishing her full stop its like im just making her more angry when she cant help it in the 1st place.
Im at a loss im finding it hard to deal with I thought it was all gonna be ok coz its not like I havnt known there is something there all these years but now i have something to go buy I am just lost

[Lulu]

It wont help now but have you in the past asked Moni what she thinks is a decent punishment? She might feel part of the process that way, even at her age.
Maybe things like "making it right' would be better value to her than punishment - eg helping her sibling clean the bedroom..ummm taking the bins out? Then it can be over - she doesn't get away with things and you do't suffer more than she does...