I think you should speak to the local council about DJs needs and what his limitations are. I know there is one girl at DD kinder who is not fully toilet trained and they deal with it - I don't know if the kids are suppose to be fully trained or not - perhaps that is a myth that can be clarified by the council or local kindergarten? We also have another child who has a funded aid & she is coping fine (I don't know why she has an aid though). GL