I think there are a few different things.. if Moni is on the spectrum, than you are going to need support yourself. Learning to work through their anger/anxiety/emotional regulation issues can take years of hard work. Family members are generally given serves to help cope during that time.

When M was diagnosed, our GP put both DH & I on mental health care plans. She felt it was extremely important that we get help dealing with things. She said the more we understand and have the ability to cope, the better off M will be.

We are dealing with things in 3 ways. Speech pathology helps her not to get as frustrated because she's finding her words earlier, OT is helping her learn how to cope physically with frustration and emotional regulation, and RDI which is a behavioural technique that helps the kids learn how to deal with the world they are living in (rather than changing the world around them to cope with them )