Moni's Update- Should I get a 2nd opinion??

[Cocolove]

Hi guys, I havn't been on in ages so much has been happening and its been so hectic around here.
Monsta has seen her psych twice and ive seen her twice on my own those meetings I dont understand she keeps saying its more about helping the parents cope with kids like this..umm ok i thought it was about helping her learn her emotions and be able to handle her anger, Im thinking about getting a 2nd opinion What do YOU think??

[Nai]

It has to be a 2-way process. You need to learn the tools to deal with her behaviour as there will be things that they cannot change. Your behaviour my also impact the way that she deals with things so changing your behaviour can change her behaviour IYKWIM. Your ability to cope will have a big impact on the family dynamics and often it is easier/quicker to get adults to learn and change. You have the motivation, intelligence and understanding of why you are doing this - she is unlikely to have the same level of comprehension so your changes are going to faster and easier to make. Hers is likely to be a long slow process that is facilitated by the way you deal with it. That is why initially they will focus on you and your behaviour - to set the right environment to enable her behaviour to change.

I hope that makes sense - but if you are still concerned then by all means get a second opinion.

[Lulu]

Maybe you can ask the psych if there are extra services around to help Moni on the emotional side as well? I don't think you need a second opinion though, I'm sure there are places around that do help with giving them tools to handle their emotions etc

[christy]

I think there are a few different things.. if Moni is on the spectrum, than you are going to need support yourself. Learning to work through their anger/anxiety/emotional regulation issues can take years of hard work. Family members are generally given serves to help cope during that time.

When M was diagnosed, our GP put both DH & I on mental health care plans. She felt it was extremely important that we get help dealing with things. She said the more we understand and have the ability to cope, the better off M will be.

We are dealing with things in 3 ways. Speech pathology helps her not to get as frustrated because she's finding her words earlier, OT is helping her learn how to cope physically with frustration and emotional regulation, and RDI which is a behavioural technique that helps the kids learn how to deal with the world they are living in (rather than changing the world around them to cope with them )