Tan this must be confronting - you have my deep understanding.

The correct name is Aspergers syndrome or ASD - autistic spectrum disorder. As this title suggest this is a spectrum disorder. So if you think of a line with different characteristics all being "normal" but a little to the left or to the right and some characteristics in clusters can suggest a child is on this spectrum.

I have a child with ASD. She was diagnosed when she was 12yo. The spectrum is vast - and ONLY a psychologist/paediatrician can accurately diagnose. It's right that the CHN has suggested further assessment - but that is the next step.

Some people fear the label - and I do understand this very well. However, it has been my experience that the diagnosis helped me to understand behaviours that were "ununderstandable". It was a relief. I battled through for years - the behaviours got worse, my child has a very destructive/aggressive nature. She finds relationships difficult and people are just commodities - she just doesn't understand how she affects others. Psychological support has been invaluable.

I urge you to seek out a professional opinion. Some of what you describe sounds "Aspy" but remember that we are all on the spectrum. Do what you thinkis best for you boy. Good luck my love - have courage - and know that this can be worked with and you will find what is right for your situation...