thread: Spectrum mama's

  1. #1

    Dec 2005
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    Spectrum mama's

    Do you ever sit back and annalyse yourself?

    See the trait's that your special need's have and wonder if in fact that you may be somewere there with them?

    Having such a horrible time in my own head atm...things I thought were normal but have since worked out are weird for others. Anger issues in myself, wiggin out over silly stuff.

    Just a bit fluffed in the head atm....sigh

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    Lucy in the sky with diamonds.

    Jan 2005
    Funky Town, Vic
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    Yeah - the food issues I have had all my life. Wigging out when things don't go to plan, issues with loud noise, having to visually SEE something before I can properly understand it, needing to understand how things work (the mechanics of things), nutso memory for weird bits of information, spacing out when people are talking to me....need me to continue??

  3. #3

    Dec 2005
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    God Lu..thank you.
    I have a thing with nubmers....have to count how mant tiles are one a wall...of eachh colour and not just count them once because I could have counted wrong but 4-5 times.
    Wigging out when things dont go to plan...yep thats me.....overloaded and wanting to rock when negetive stuff is around.
    pillows have to be a certain way on the couch, need to wash my hands .

    It suck's.....I never realised that things were so out of whack and how anal I can be over bull****

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    Even so called "normal" people can do those things Maz. My mother has to buy even numbered amounts of a certain item (like 2 or 4. never 3 cans). She knows how many tiles are on each floor. Won't step on cracks in the concrete. Stuff like that. Sometimes I think it's an individual's genetic make up

    HTH hun!

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    Lucy in the sky with diamonds.

    Jan 2005
    Funky Town, Vic
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    Oooh me too on the counting. I love to try and count, divide, multiply the same thing in as many differently ways as possible. From a vegie maths professor too
    And the need to clench my jaw every time I pass a - whatever is the thing at the time. Most of the time it's cracks in the pavement. If it's trees I'm in big trouble!

    I disagree with you about things being out of wack with you. You just are wack - who says that's a bad thing? I got told by my friends over and over again "you are such a space cadet" or giving me the nickname lucytunes....but it was all said affectionatley so I never thought it was a problem.

    You know a loooong time ago a friend dropped around after she had ingested some hallucinogenics. She sat me down, looked me in the eye quite seriously and said "I always thought you were a bit nuts Lu, but now I truly understand how you think"
    OMG

    It's waaaay better than trainspotting isn't it!

  6. #6
    Lucy in the sky with diamonds.

    Jan 2005
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    who says your mum is normal CL?

    Although I agree, everyone is wierd in their own special way. Embrace it I say......unless it's really causing problems for you.

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    BellyBelly Member

    Oct 2004
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    huh.. well then. I would say that while none of my boys have actually been diagnosed with any spectrum disorders (I mean WTF do I know, Im just dealing with them day in & day out) But There is something going on regardless of what any of the "professionals" tell me. Anyway. I have always figured it all comes from my DH, who is so an aspergus man.
    Anyway though, just recently I have noticed things like numbers. When I go shopping I have to have either 8, 10 or 12 pieces of fruit. the volume on the tv can only go up in 5's (which is frustrating as we have a new set top box which controls the volume & its thrown my system out of whack). I also can't go to bed unless its on the the hour or half hour. So if its say 11.20, I have to wait for 11.30, but if I don't notice & its 11.35 I have to wait till its 12.
    I have always had a head for remembering numbers like credit cards or TFN & centerlink ref # & not just mine but DH's too (same with phone numbers).
    I have to avoid counting tiles, if I started that I can't stop LOL. I learnt to avoid that a long time ago. LOL one time I got caught out counting bloody power poles on a 1 & half hour drive! I couldn't stop, it was very annoying.
    Oh & I have a terrible memory for good things, but I can recall everything bad or that I held a grudge against. that I find pretty sad actually, means my head is messed up. I hold a grudge so much there is no room to remember the good thing like I should. I have my sister telling me things that we use to do as kids, I don't remember any of it. DH will say remember when Evan would do this or Glenn did that? But nope I know it happened but I can't recall it like I should.

    BUT these are things that have developed as an adult. I don't remember it as a kid (mind you though, I wouldn't!)

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    who says your mum is normal CL?

    Although I agree, everyone is wierd in their own special way. Embrace it I say......unless it's really causing problems for you.
    lol, that was the " bit around it! I think my whole family is a tad nuts so I really can't define normal :P

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    Dec 2005
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    oh man maybe we are all normal and the other people in our lives are the odd ones

    I have a BAD habit of opening my mouth and just saying what I think and not giving a ****. I then relive it in my mind for weeks at a time and finally work out that I was a cow with what I said. I also have bad habit of listening to everyone and believing what they say is true...KWIM. Maybe cause I cant bull**** I expect others to be aswell and then I get sucked into a big whirl wind blerg!!! Its been like that since school.....I was always gullable and ended up not doing much in fear.

    the kids decorated the tree this year....I normally have to have them set a certain way...but thought that I need to stop and let the kids do it....it is SOOOOOOO erking me right now!!

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    I think everyone's weird! Seriously. I also suffer foot in mouth Maz. People know where they stand with me!

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    Totally Maz, both DP and I are almost certainly somewhere on the spectrum. All the things Lu said, I experience too. Food issues (mostly texture related), sensory issues - mostly auditory but also tactile, spacing out in conversations, a tendency to dominate a conversation or be slightly obsessive in subject matter, insane memory for trivia, and numbers, a visual memory. It wasn't until DS was diagnosed that I really started to identify those traits are being typical spectrum traits though. I have often felt that a much larger percentage of people are on the spectrum than are ever tested, but because their traits do not manifest in a way that causes them distress or difficulty then testing (or intervention) is never required. Even though DS' spectrum traits are difficult for him (and for us) to manage, they also make him the clever, creative, wonderfully unique little oddball that he is. And as DP and I are both clever, creative, wonderfully unique oddballs ourselves, he fits in pretty well around here LOL.

    It's made me wonder though, if the combination of DP and my genes has had an exponential result on DS (ie: he's much more severely affected than we are to an extent that he's unable to self-manage without intervention), or whether the lack of both diagnostic and treatment tools when we were growing up meant that we self-managed because there was no other option.

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    Lucy in the sky with diamonds.

    Jan 2005
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    I just learnt to work through it. Most of the time it's only in hindsight that I can identify this, and tbh I don't think it affected my life adversely. If I had known (then) more I might have been acutely aware and stressed lots more. Also I see the traits far more when I am highly stressed.

    Suse - I fully believe DS is the combination of the Perfect Storm of Xp and I. He has so many traits from the both of us....just magnified.

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    BellyBelly Member

    Oct 2004
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    LOL I suffer major foot in mouth, I just figured its because I say it as I see it because I am a ***** LOL

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    Dec 2005
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    Also I see the traits far more when I am highly stressed.
    OMG YES!!!!! Thats me right now!!! Wigigng out about all the stuff I have to do tomorrow and th drive to Melbourne on Saturday...god how I hate driving in the city

    Suse - I think my dad sort of knew something wasnt right with me as a kid. Ive alwasy had alot of trouble with spelling, continuously mixing up my letters ect...and I was always writing stories that the teacher told him were a bit beyond my years....so he and mum got me a typewriter and I use to sit for HOURS on it. It was my down time...as sewing is now

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    mmmmm i have to have the TV volume on an even number........(many other things to)