I just learnt to work through it. Most of the time it's only in hindsight that I can identify this, and tbh I don't think it affected my life adversely. If I had known (then) more I might have been acutely aware and stressed lots more. Also I see the traits far more when I am highly stressed.

Suse - I fully believe DS is the combination of the Perfect Storm of Xp and I. He has so many traits from the both of us....just magnified.