Can we still use these names....?

[Willow]

We've been through the same thing, we lost our second baby at 12 weeks (missed m/c) and although nothing was set in concrete, I already knew in my heart the names we would have used. I have a very strong feeling that our baby was a girl and so in my head and in my heart I refer to her by the name we would have used.

So for me, there's no way I could use it again. That name already belongs to one of our children, here or not.

It took us 12 months to fall prg again through IVF after our loss so I had a lot of time to grieve and think about this baby. Over time, this just became 'her' name. If circumstances had been different and we had fallen prg again quickly after our loss, I think I may have felt differently about the name.

It is a very personal decision though - I think only you can answer that and perhaps not until you fall prg again. You'll know if it feels right or not