We don't want anyone to ever use the names we have picked out either.... We have 2 names including middle names for both gender, the 1st names for the girls dh made them up and they are so pretty I just LOVE them! knowing that no one else will have the name is what makes them extra special to us kwim. Again, the boys names we have chosen dh came up with, they are 'out there' because we googled them but we have never came across anyone else with those names and we have spelt them differently so they are also very special to us. Even the middle names we have I just love, and again we have never met anyone called them so I don't even want them to be used by anyone else. There is no way we would tell anyone names we have before the bub is born, it doesn't matter if it's a common name or a made up one there will always be rude enough people that will tell you how much they don't like it and honestly I don't want to hear it so would rather not say.
We don't share names either although with DD2 our next door neighbour was pregnant at the same time and due just a few weeks before us so we shared names because we didn't want to use one that the other really wanted. In the end she used my DD1's middle name for her DD2's first name which was pretty cool. She said to me that I am the only person she really trusts when they say that they love the name
I was so worried someone would use DS's name before he was born. We didn't tell anyone but there were so many pg women around all having boys that it was a worry. And what do you know - someone did Oh well. They were far enough removed from us that we used it anyway.
The girls name we had "sortof" picked is now crossed off the list because it has been used by a friend. We probalby could still use it but there are so many girls names I like that I'm sure I can convince DH to change his mind.
We don't share names. Not because we're worried someone will use it, more to make it more of a surprise on the day! Everyone knew DS' due date & that he was a boy so this was all we had just between ourselves.
Will be the same for any other kids. Also we didn't want any negative comments because our heart was set on this particular name!
I/we've chosen all three names at the last minute - the lastest one after he was born - so pretty hard to steal those. My first was named after a (particularly dark and gross) song that was popular at the time on JJJ and was the only name we could agree on.
I had 3 relatives due within 8 weeks of me, all with boys, so not getting the same name as any of them was reasonably important, but unless the one who is still yet to have hers changes her mind, they are all different. I told the names to a friend who is a teacher, she complained all of her classes all have 2-3 boys with each of the three names they've chosen and none of mine so I feel quite happy We told my parents, the ex's sister and a few friends our shortlist and not anyone else.
I'd rather have all the names in my inner circle (friends/relatives/other people we have regular contact with) unique, but we have two cousin Erins now - thankfully one I have seen once in the last 15 years and my daughter has never heard of or she'd get her mixed up with her younger cousin Aeryn. There's only one duplicate name we hit regularly - Jackson. One cousin, the neighbour's grandson, and several kids at playgroup and kindergym. This town is really small so while the kids in the town do tend to have popular names, everyone talks so there's only really duplicates with new people who move to the town with their kids, which is really quite a fascinating bit of social commentary on small towns
I was one of about 7 women in the circles I travel that was having a bub this year, so I was a little worried someone birthing before me might use our name, so I told everyone and their dog what we would call our boy or girl bub in the hopes no one stole it (I think there was method in my madness!) DD was born, and we didn't end up calling her that name anyways
I do! We have very good friend's due to have a boy around the same time our baby is due- and it's very likely their baby will be induced early due to the mother's health complications. So they'll get in before us and as we're such good friend's I know we have similar tastes so they could well steal our boys name!!
I was saying our names are a secret but I'm thinking of mentioning it so I can bags the name
The only time I ever cared was when someone took a name I loved and butchered it with alternative spelling. It's already an unfamiliar name so I just didn't see the point. But I got over it and I never ended up using the name anyway. Nor will I now.
And I really think that unless you created the name yourself it's hardly intellectual property
The other thing with names is as soon as you pick a name you see it more because it stands out to you because it's familiar. Just like a new car up until you buy a new car you don't see them and then suddenly you see heaps
I never worried about telling anyone my names because I was using them regardless. When I was about 25 weeks pregnant with the twins I met a woman who is now a good friend. We were chatting for ages then she introduced her daughter Scarlett. I froze for a minute then blurted out "If I'm having a girl she will be Scarlett too!". This was a small village, 900 people only, so 2 Scarletts was a bit strange but in then end they were just known as Big Scarlett and Little Scarlett and it was never a problem.
I feel the same as you do, I like the fact that there are not many ppl with my kids names. I have a girls name in my head if we had another (and a girl) and i dont want to tell anyone for fear of it being used b4 we do!
I only worry because I always seem to be pregnant with one of my sisters! I tell the names hoping they're not the same names as they've chosen for their bubs. Twice now I have been pregnant at the same time as my ex's wife so I do tend to worry about naming my child the same as theirs... but they're into very different names to me thankfully. We have chosen names for this bub and I am worried that they will use the boys name as it is a popular type of name.
Last edited by Lisa; August 1st, 2010 at 09:57 PM.
When my sister and I were pregnant at the same time we both were considering using James as a boys name. I wanted it as a middle name and she as a first, so we both agrees that would be ok. In the end it didn't matter as she had a girl. What really annoyed me was my BIL and SIL using my kids names without mentioning it first (they have done this twice now) which I think is rude although it doesn't really matter. It just would have been nice to have been asked first.
I'm not worried about it for the future. Our boys name has been picked out for ages, and it's so common and bland () I doubt anyone would want to steal it anyways - Peter Mark Collins. Peter for my Dad who has passed, and Mark for my uncle who is also no longer with us. DF gets to choose the girls name, so no idea what that will be yet lol. I've always loved Isla.
The only people I share my names with are you lovely ladies on BB
I don't share them with family or any other friends, as I like the idea of a surprise
We don't tell what we are thinking because in the end with DD we didn't use anything that we had on our shortlist and actually named her a week later
This bub we don't even really have any names yet, so nothing to tell bubs will be names once we have met face to face and we can find a name that suits. DD doesn't have a "common" name and we prefer to not use a "Top 10" or similar name as the first names
So we wouldn't know if someone chose the name we wanted to use anyway!
Because we find out the sex of our babies we try to keep the chosen name a secret. I say Try because after a while I tend to start referring to the babu by the chosen name.
FWIW for our angel we had DD name chosen and told my mother and her exact comment was " Shae, thats a horses name not a name for a baby, you don't want to name her after a horse"
SO we chose another name for our angel. then when we were pregnant with DD, Dh said this baby's name will be Shae and that was it .... now Mum reckons its such a beautiful name, go figure ...
At the end of the day, if your not going to be influenced by others opinions then I don't see any reason why telling other what you like ITMS unless of course you want to keep SOMETHING a secret. I am not worried about others using my names as I don't have that many "close friends" whom are TTC that like the same sorts of names.
I have had names picked out for my babies for over 10 years. I picked them cause of their meaning and what they meant to me. All I need now is the babies to name them.
my 2nd girls name is becoming popular, i have seen a couple of people name their babies that and it kind of makes me sad...my 1st boys name seems to have been popular i have met a few boys with that name but they are all 3 or 4 years old now. My 1st girls name and 2nd boys name though no one has ever used before, which i really like.
I want to show off the names but obviously get scared when people ask cause i dont want them to use them.
When DH and I do get preg, we wont be finding out the sex, so probably would be easier to keep the names a secret.
it just happened to me today - my bestie just used my choice for a boy's middle name for her own boy's middle name.... now what do ya do about that hey? you cant exactly turn around and say.. 'hey that was my name' - all you can do is use it still if you like it and hope that she remembers it was you who spoke about it first and hope that she doesnt get offended if your son ends up having the same name..
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Oh well. They were far enough removed from us that we used it anyway.
We told my parents, the ex's sister and a few friends our shortlist and not anyone else.
bubs will be names once we have met face to face and we can find a name that suits. DD doesn't have a "common" name and we prefer to not use a "Top 10" or similar name as the first names 
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