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  1. #1
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    Feb 2008
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    DF was the same...I wrote out a list of girl's names..we found out we were having a girl so didn't worry too much about boy's names. He said no to every single one and I was heart broken! He decided the only name he liked was Hayley, which I didn't really like but said I'd think about it..and well the rest speaks for itself! I guess I eventually got used it and don't think any other name would suit our Hayley now! Lol.

    Keep at him and hopefully he will start to like at least one of them! i was pretty annoyed when DF said no to every one of my choices so I can see a battle for number 2 whenever that happens

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    DH and I knew we were having a girl but could not agree on a name, then when I was 26 weeks he came to me asking if he could buy an old Holden. So DD got the name I wanted (which is Amelia) and he got the Holden. Now that we know we are having another girl, he thinks he gets to pick the name. We are having a lot of trouble this time, I have so many names I like and DH can't think of one. Maybe I should start looking in the old cars section of the trading post again.

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    My DH was like that too. What is it with men not liking the name Amelia? I've had that as my number one girls name since high school and he won't even listen to it. Stubborn I tell ya!

    With DS, I wanted Cooper but again DS refused. We came to a deal though. I said if his middle name can be Cooper then he can pick a first name from my short list. I gave him a list of about 20 names and he picked number 2 on the list so that worked out pretty well. Maybe you could do that?

    Girls names were a different story though. We can't agree on a single one. He pretty much refuses to even consider my suggestions and the only name that he could come up with was Stephanie. That didn't even make my extended short list of about 200 names lol! (Nothing wrong with it - it just doesn't go with our surname and I don't like the short versions.)

    I like the idea of waiting until after the birth and then saying "MY FAVOURITE NAME" then he has to agree because if he doesn't he would look like the world's number one a-hole after everything we've just gone through. I came across that idea in another thread on here but I can't remember who suggested it.

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    DF is the same

  5. #5
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    Sep 2009
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    LOL Seems like we have all been there with our significant others!

    DH and I had a similar problem - and it was for girls names - he was very traditional and I liked something a little different - try and make an agreement with him where you pick the first name, he picks the second name perhaps? Amazingly enough we have both agreed on our Sons name

    Get a name book and get him to sit down and circle the ones he likes and then you go through and circle the ones you like - you'd be suprised - you may find that you pick a few of the same ones!

    Good Luck!!

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    I think the way to find a name you both like is to find out WHY you either like or don't like particular names in the first place.

    I can fully understand not liking a name because of associations with people known (for instance we will never have names that might have been ex's or that person we hated at school/work), but then again you might want to have namesakes (family members etc).

    For me, it's all about the meaning. I really believe people are generally like what their name means. So if the name has a fluffy or undesirable meaning, it doesn't matter how nice it sounds - it's scratched. My husband really likes the name Corbin, and I actually liked it too - until I found out the meaning (Crow - which is a scavenger bird. I might as well call him Vulture) so that was instantly out. My husband did not argue with it because when he found out what it meant he didn't like it so much anymore either. So meaning is how I determine names and for that reason we don't go for overly common names - because of associated meanings I can apply to them as well as the real meaning.

    My husband's hang up with names is what rhymes, how it could be shortened and whether or not it could get them teased - he even goes as far to check whether the initials will spell something. Our nephew's initials spell JAR - very unfortunate with his particular head shape.

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    I like the idea of waiting until after the birth and then saying "MY FAVOURITE NAME" then he has to agree because if he doesn't he would look like the world's number one a-hole after everything we've just gone through. I came across that idea in another thread on here but I can't remember who suggested it.


    That's hilarious!! I love that idea!!!

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    Apr 2008
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    You have heaps of time to decide on names.

    I am overdue and we don't know the gender and we don't have names for either gender anyway.

    When i first suggested DD's name to DH his reply was "NO WAY" Needless to say he changed his mind, infact he loves her name more than i do.

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    DP and I can decide on a few but he wants his middle name if its a boy and i dont like it lol. Plus my middle name doesnt go with any of the girl names we like.

    Tell him your cooking it you get final say lol

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    i love Lachlan for a boy

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    When you get the right name you will both agree and it won't be a matter of convincing anyone

    Don't stress, it will all pan out in the end!


    Oh, DH wants to name the baby (and the last one lol) Seven (as in Seven of Nine from Start Trek) and wonders why I think I am not sold on the idea!

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    Amelia was also my top pick for a girl, but DH wouldn't have a bar of it.....so annoying THEN a friend had a baby recently and named her Amelie and he said he LIKED that! Grrrrrr

    Maybe you can just do a variant of the names you like?

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    When you get the right name you will both agree and it won't be a matter of convincing anyone

    Don't stress, it will all pan out in the end!


    Oh, DH wants to name the baby (and the last one lol) Seven (as in Seven of Nine from Start Trek) and wonders why I think I am not sold on the idea!

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    Hahaha

    Lachlan is right up there for me for boy names as well. My worst enemy is named Hayley...sorry to all the Hayley's out there but I hate that name!

    Aim x

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    Sep 2009
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    I have exactly the same problem. DH hates my name choices and I hate his! We both decided we loved Chloe Elizabeth, but I have a 13 year old cousin called Chloe and my family is very difficult, so I thought it would be the right thing to do to mention it to them. Bad idea, but thats another story and I'm about to start a thread of my own!

    So... we're stuck. I met a woman in a baby shop the other day that told me the birth of her son wasn't registered for three months after his was born simply because she and her DH couldn't agree on a name!

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    Haaaa. Kim on the pumpkin patch! Ahurani, just wanted to say I feel your pain.. I have the perfect name picked for lil bun, if it is a boy.. Dh hates it. I told him when he can grow a baby, then he can pick the names. Ha. Ha. Ha. jk... but sounded good in theory as I said it! lol.

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    Ugh, I know how you feel! I love Nalin for a boy but Shel, of course, refuses.
    I can't use the whole 'after birth' thing since I'm not the one giving birth, so I guess my aim is to pick at her until I wear her down enough that she'll consider it...

    Sorry, no suggestions, but I do liek this thread. Hopefully I'll get some ideas on how to make your partner consider your names.
    Thinking about it, I guess our partners are probably thinking the same things about us

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    Ugh, I know how you feel! I love Nalin for a boy but Shel, of course, refuses.
    I can't use the whole 'after birth' thing since I'm not the one giving birth, so I guess my aim is to pick at her until I wear her down enough that she'll consider it...

    Sorry, no suggestions, but I do liek this thread. Hopefully I'll get some ideas on how to make your partner consider your names.
    Thinking about it, I guess our partners are probably thinking the same things about us
    lol I'll bet they are! I know for a fact that Ed is completely and utterly fed up of my "horrible" name suggestions! I have to say, I went to school with a boy called Nalin and he was the loveliest person... so kind to everyone and just a really nice person.

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