Oh Katabellah - I feel your pain. Our DS1 didn't have a name until he was 2 weeks old because we refused to compromise with each others first choices- terrible!
The thing is- we actually both loved a name earlier in the pregnancy, as it was very unique, artistic, and we had come across it quite alot in our travels around Europe. Then low and behold, some young man with our favorite name committed a hideous crime against a minor and it was all over the news etc. Of course the story was forgotten 2 weeks after that but DH couldn't let the association go. I was so upset - I brought up the issue with my friends and none of them could actually remember the name of the guy who committed the crime anyway.
Luckily, DH eventually brought up the name crisis with his mates- who told him that 'our' name was the best of his selection, and that it would be stupid to get rid of a great name just because some moron out there with the same name did something bad. I mean, how many criminals out there must be called Michael or Jason, for example??
Anyways- so we settled on it in the end- but poor DS1 was just 'bub' for a couple of weeks!!
I am so petrified that the same thing will happen if we have a boy this time. We have already started discussing names to be prepared - but he seems to change his mind like the wind. Thankfully he is pleased with my chosen girls name...... coz I wont be taking no for an answer with that one!!
Goodluck- maybe you can suggest that if you have boy - he can have your Dh's name as a middle name? Or maybe there is a nice name for a female middle name on his side of the family, or a female he admires, which may make him come around?
Oh- and a word of advice, sometimes they can be antagonistic to a name simply because you suggested it (I don't think they are aware of this of course), but rather than you go through lots of name lists and suggest them to him, make him go through name lists (you can have a list each) and at the end see if you have picked any of the same. This way they feel a bit more empowered, and he cannot deny liking a name if he chooses it for himself!!
Goodluck!!
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Last edited by JellyBean; March 30th, 2009 at 05:45 PM.
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My DH refused to discuss names before we knew the sex of our baby!! But I still kept saying "what do you think of xx". I thought it was going to be very hard to find a name we both liked because he didn't like ANY of my suggestions.
At our 19 week scan we found out we were having a boy. I already had a very long list of girls names but no boys names as I just couldn't think of any. The very same day DH said he liked Peter, which according to him I had suggested ages ago. This was my late fathers name & is DH's middle name. So decision made easy peasy!!
I don't think we'll change our minds as the name means alot to me. The only trouble now is a middle name which I think is important to have. Don't know why - just our opinion. The middle name DH wants I hate & I can't think of anything yet.
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But I still kept saying "what do you think of xx". I thought it was going to be very hard to find a name we both liked because he didn't like ANY of my suggestions.
The very same day DH said he liked Peter, which according to him I had suggested ages ago. This was my late fathers name & is DH's middle name. So decision made easy peasy!! 
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