With DS1 we had a list of three boys' names - and when he was born prem and we weren't sure he was going to make it, we chose the name that meant "strength" or "kingly".

With DS2, XH and I were barely speaking to each other. I'd wanted one name (again I had a short list of three) and my mum and Ds1 had been calling my belly that name for months. When he was born, XH said he wanted to call him Name1 name2. I detested all the nicknames for Name1 but loved the nickname for name2. So I said to XH that none of my children were being named nickname1 but he could have name2 name1 with nickname2. And so DS2 was named.

Lucky They were both boys - I found girls names much harder. DS1 was going to be Matilda - we had agreed on that. DS2 would have been nameless as a girl - there was no communication at all about girls names at that stage. Even though we didn't know what we were having!