Thanks for the responses guys! Gothmum I hear you on the spelling factor, I *thought* I wouldn't have to spell the Bear's last name (I always had to spell my maiden name), but alas people seem to need that!
I think what got me thinking about this was some friends of ours who are married but bubs both have mum's last name. And mum and her two sisters all have different last names - ie one has her mum's, one has her dad's and the other has both! Also I was looking around my mum's group and wondering what the baby's last names were... and I'm still too shy to ask!
DH and I are married, but I kept my maiden name. I changed my name the first time I got married to my exH's name - and then went through hell to try and change it back with all the "procedural rules" up here. So I kept my name.
The kids have DH's surname though. Sometimes I think about changing my name to be the same as my kids, because you always get "those" looks, when they think I'm unmarried, to which I quickly say "we're married and I kept my name" blah blah blah
Just bothers me because I'm judged so quickly and they don't even know the reason why I don't have his name (and also my name just sounds SOOOOOOO bad with his last name, and I like mine - its different - and I can spell it quickly... and I like that.... LOL)
Anyhoo - *cough cough* - yes... kids have hubby's name.
child number 1 has my last name (was with father but chose to give my last name for a few reasons. Ex had no say)
child number 2 has DF's last name
child number 3 will have DF's last name
when we marry i will hyphernate my surname and if/when DF adopts child number one and can have #1's name changed to his ill more then likely drop my maiden name and just have DF's name. If child number one doesnt get to change surname then ill keep mine hyphernated.
I am very interested in this thread as am still undecided what to do. I am not big on hyphenating names.
Would love my child to have DP's last name but I dont want to have a different last name to my child. I grew up with a different last name to my mum as she got divorced from my dad and I didnt like it.
Does anyone know if it is difficult to change a childs last name if DP and I did eventually one day get married.
Seeming this baby is already overdue I am running out of time to work this out!
Just to put a different spin on this thread. Family friends of my parents got married and the Husband took the Wifes surname because it was important to her to carry on her family name (no sons to carry it on).
The girls have DF's surname easy to say and I will also become a Smith one day.
I've had to go through the the whole change of name crap to get my passport as my surname now is different to the name on my birth certificate (parents split when I was young) I didn't want to have the hassle of changing their surnames when we get married.
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